If setting boundaries feels hard for you, there is a reason.
You are not bad at this, and you are not failing. For many people, boundaries are not just about knowing what to say. They are about what happens in your body when you even think about saying it. Your stomach drops, your chest tightens, your mind starts racing, and suddenly you are more focused on how the other person will feel than on what you actually need. So you stay quiet, or you say yes when you want to say no, or you try to hint instead of being clear.
Later, you feel tired, resentful, or frustrated with yourself. That cycle makes sense. If you learned that keeping the peace was safer than being honest, or that other people’s needs came first, of course boundaries feel scary now. Nothing is wrong with you. Your nervous system is trying to protect you. The problem is that this protection is costing you rest, time, energy, and sometimes even your relationships. Boundaries are not just a skill. They are something your body has to learn is safe. And that can be learned.
I TRY TO SET BOUNDARIES BUT THEY NEVER STICK
You plan your words perfectly in your head — but when the moment comes, you panic.
You want to say no, but the guilt hits first.
You know you should set a limit… but then you cave before you even open your mouth.
You set one boundary and then spend the next week replaying it.
You end up resentful, exhausted, and wondering why this feels so hard.
Maybe this sounds like you:
This is not, "just say no" therapy. If that worked, you wouldn't be here.
This is about changing what happens inside you, not just what comes out of your mouth.
WHAT WE'LL DO TOGETHER
Figure out what you actually need and want (not what you’ve been trained to tolerate)
Turn “I should say something” into simple, clear words that don’t require a 10-minute explanation or apology.
Practice having uncomfortable conversations without spiraling, overthinking, or immediately taking it back.
Learn what to do with the wave of guilt, anxiety, and “did I do something wrong?”
Build the muscle to hold your line even when someone pushes back, gets upset, or tries to change your mind.
Here's How It Works
It was a big step just getting here. Let's make this next part simple.
The First Move
It’s okay if it feels a little awkward. I got you. Use my client form, everything is done for you —just a couple clicks and you’re all set!
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My Turn
I’ll introduce myself and ask you some questions to better understand what's going on - nothing too deep. I’ll answer any questions you have and we can see if we’re a good fit.
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Start Therapy
(Don't overthink it)
Coffee in hand? Good. Sit Back. You made it. All you have to do is show up and I'll guide us through everything.
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Let's clear something up.
Boundaries are not walls.
They’re not ultimatums.
They’re not punishments.
They're instructions.
They’re show people:
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how to treat you
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how to talk to you
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how to be in relationship with you
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how to not slowly burn you out
Most people aren’t trying to hurt you.
They just don’t know where the lines are.
And you were probably never taught how to draw them.
STOP CARRYING EVERYONE ELSE'S CRAP
